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ASIN : B00HUYT8TS
Publisher : Yale University Press; 1st edition (February 25, 2014)
Publication date : February 25, 2014
Language : English
File size : 1098 KB
Text-to-Speech : Enabled
Screen Reader : Supported
Enhanced typesetting : Enabled
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Sticky notes : On Kindle Scribe
Print length : 296 pages
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ASIN : B00HUYT8TS
Publisher : Yale University Press; 1st edition (February 25, 2014)
Publication date : February 25, 2014
Language : English
File size : 1098 KB
Text-to-Speech : Enabled
Screen Reader : Supported
Enhanced typesetting : Enabled
X-Ray : Enabled
Word Wise : Enabled
Sticky notes : On Kindle Scribe
Print length : 296 pages
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Customers find the research in the book provides good insight and reduces the fear of managing teenagers. They also find the writing style easy to follow and the stories engaging and accurate.
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It’s not complicated, just chill
This book is excellent. I couldn’t put it down.Like Emily Bazelon’s recent book on bullying and Lenore Skenazy’s Free-Range Kids, it’s underlying heart is to bring common sense to an important set of issues in parenting. However, unlike those books, its head is most clearly in the academic rather than journalistic space. This is not to deride journalists, of course, but there is a noticeable difference between work that reports on research and work that is the report on research. boyd’s book falls into the latter character but somehow manages to do so in a written style that is fluid and engaging.It took 8 years of research, mostly involving in-depth interviews with teens and some parents, for boyd to put together a model and evidence of how teens interact and behave in the digital world. Along the way, it was clear that boyd had a theory as to how teens were motivated and also a hypothesis: that the digital world has changed little in those motivations and only the expression and instruments of their behaviour and interaction. What is more, like the past, parents’ motivations have not changed too much and teenager choices are driven as much by parental actions (or, in most cases, restraints) as they are by teenager desires.In trying to conduct research over that period of time with regard to the digital world, there is a clear challenge: the instruments and platforms teens used to engage, digitally, changed. When the research started out MySpace was king, then Facebook and most recently, literally as the book was going to press, SnapChat and Instagram. There was a real danger the book would feel dated. However, boyd turns that into a strength. Yes, sure, this teen was using MySpace when they were interviewed but here is what that platform has in common with others today. It is basically the same deal.So let me do incredible injustice to the book and try, as briefly as possible, to summarise its findings. Teens are extremely social and want to interact with one another (so if you think looking at a screen is a sign of isolation, think again). What is more, they want to engage in that social interaction independent of adults (so if you think your kids don’t want you around, remember when you were a teen). Thus, teens are trying to balance being social (sharing) with being independent (privacy). They are (a) like teens forever and (b) like people. That balance is hard to learn, understand and manage.Now insert into that mix parents (and teachers and others). Those parents are concerned for safety and have their own, largely out-dated model of what social and anti-social behaviour is. They also don’t really know what they are doing but have an image of a ‘stepford’ like teen that they want in the end. (I should say boyd is more diplomatic than I am being here but I think that captures the true essence of the average parental mindset). So the parents engage in behaviour regulation — usually a series of prohibitions. For instance, to keep teens safe they don’t let them out. Then they are surprised when their kids want to spend all their time on social media and complain that they are not engaging in real interactions. Yes, because the only ones they would have left is you and they don’t want that. If you want to see them have real social interactions, they have to be left out. This is why they go to football games (who would like to do that otherwise) or rush to school early. They are desperately pushing through the cracks to get more interaction with one another.Everything else follows neatly from that model. It is just pure substitution, plain and simple. What is more, any of the dangers from online activity — addiction and predation — are not borne out by any data. Instead, there is a new danger — that the assumption by adults is that kids actually understand digital technology. They don’t. That means when they are told by teachers that Google is good and Wikipedia is not, they actually believe them! They over-trust one and ignore the other. At the same time, they find it hard to work out what will last and what will not. Finally, and this is important, if parents try to peek in on teen’s digital world’s — by cyberstalking them on Facebook — they will either force teens to be cryptic to obscure potential trouble or simply not understand the context of the behaviour they are seeing.One point I want to emphasise is with respect to privacy. Because teens share so much on social media, there is a perception to think that teens do not care about privacy and also how they are perceived. The book dispels that perception. Teens are more concerned about this than we adults. They care about how they are perceived with one another and publicly in general. The self-regulate their behaviour to do so; often in really innovative ways. But when it comes to privacy, they aren’t worried about governments, the media or corporations — that is for their future fears. Instead, they want to be private essentially from their parents. They go to social media because they want to interact socially even if it looks like it is in plain site (actually, these days if they go to MySpace, they’ll have all the privacy they want). They use codes and shift themselves around, to avoid the gaze of parents. And the more parents hover, the more effort teens put into being private with regard to them. Parents may wonder, “what do they have to hide?” but in reality, they just want to hide out a bit. We don’t really understand the motives for privacy amongst adults too well but surely, it takes just a little respect to believe that teens might want privacy, “just because.”All that said, I have one quibble with the book and also one comment. The quibble is the title “It’s Complicated.” It really isn’t. As you read this book, you’ll see it is actually quite simple: that’s what a good theoretical model gets you. Teens need to be evaluated as (a) not being unusual; (b) acting like human beings and (c) being given the benefit of the doubt rather than objects of fear. Just stepping back and asking yourself “if this thing I see my kid doing is actually OK, what is really going on here?” For instance, I have seen my daughter stick her tongue out, take a picture and “share” it on SnapChat. One interpretation of this is: why would you do that? The other interpretation is: it is good that you chose to do that on SnapChat where the picture will last only 10 seconds? In one interpretation, she is an unusual deviant. In the other, she is someone who has actually learned what appropriate behaviour is and sensibly chosen the right technology for the job. My point here is that it is not complicated at all. It is really simple: just chill, it is normal behaviour going on and no permanent harm is being done. Indeed, it is probably all for the best.I’ve only scratched the surface of this issue in this review. boyd’s examples are great and really give you a sense as to what is going on. But here I come to my comment. There is one limitation of being a book grounded in what we know and that is, this isn’t a parenting book. There is no big advice chapter in the end. boyd doesn’t tell parents to chill although you would have to be a moron not to take that away. She doesn’t list a set of advice to follow. That is because she hasn’t evaluated how to deal with these things and so cannot speculate on it. Moreover, she hasn’t studied what happened before (should younger kids be on social networks) and what happens after (do teens that are on social networks turn out to be ‘better’ young adults). The focus is on teens and nothing else but, in many respects, that still left me wanting more.Nonetheless, that does not mean this isn’t a book for parents. It is a book that will give you perspective and reduce the fear in managing teenagers and give you the opportunity to have a better relationship with your teens; even if it is not the ideal fantasy in your mind.
It’s Complicated Book Review
âItâs Complicatedâ was a fascinating read that shed light on a somewhat controversial aspect of our society today. The issue of teenagers and their interactions with technology is controversial because of the conflicted opinions shared between teenagers and adults. I am twenty-three years old, so it was easier for me to relate to Boydâs opinions expressed by younger people in todayâs culture. However, I also am an adult working in the professional world, so I do carry a diverse perspective. I found it very surprising and somewhat refreshing to hear her take such an optimistic role. I appreciated her point of view because she had done incredible amounts of research and conducted many interviews. Instead of acting solely on emotion or assumption, Boyd was focused on incorporating data and real-life examples. The ways that Boyd constructed her arguments throughout the book were honest and open-minded. In the âDangerâ chapter, Boyd stated: âAs always happens whenever adults obsess over child safety, restrictions emerge and fearful rhetoric abounds (pg. 103).â I did notice how Boyd used absolutes like this throughout the book that werenât always accurate. To say that something âalways happensâ is an unrealistic extreme. I know parents who are overbearing when it comes to the safety of their children and they focus their fears by having healthy conversations, not automatically imposing restriction. Overall, the ways that Boyd argued were very fair in addressing both sides of the issue and giving teens a fair say in what was expressed. I found her stories to be engaging and accurate. One thing that I wished Boyd touched on more throughout the book was the issue of safety from a privacy standpoint for teens on the internet. A fear that I have for young people comes from the horror stories of young girls or boys getting involved with adults online and getting taken advantage of in vulnerable ways. I admit that this is an aspect of the digital world that I do not fully understand so I do want to know how I can better equip young people to not fall into those traps. I found it interesting when Boyd said: âWhen parents choose to hover, lurk, and track, they implicitly try to regulate teensâ practices. Parents often engage in these acts out of love but fail to realize how surveillance is a form of oppression that limits teensâ ability to make independent choices (pg. 74).â I see what Boyd is talking about here, but I do wonder how to achieve the balance of having some sort of surveillance without making teens feel limited. It would have been nice for Boyd to elaborate on this more. Overall, I thoroughly enjoyed this read and appreciated Boydâs refreshing style of writing that provided clarity and perspective on a prevalent topic in our society today. I would recommend this book to be read by educatorâs and parents who desire a holistic understanding on the social lives of networked teens. Boyd creates awareness about many aspects of the online world while also helping eliminate misconceptions that adults might have. If we are to better reach our students today, I think we need to be more like Boyd and try to understand their desire for an online presence from their point of view.
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Don’t worry that this book is ‘out of date’. You may think that because social media moves so quickly that a book written 2 years ago may not be able to fully outline the world we live in today. This book preempts and counters that argument very early on. If you have children, or you are a teacher, you need this book. The relationship between teenagers and social media is complex and vast, but this book will clear up a lot of the doubts you have. The book is written by an anthropologist, not a social media guru.
All parents of teen should read this book. I found it to be an eye opener. It will spare parents lots of conflict. Reaction without understanding leads to more of the same. We need to understand what is going on and open up communication with our teens. At the same time there need to be limits set with cyber-bullying. It pays to make “the relationship” paramount to help protect them so they will tell us when something is wrong.
Can only recommend this insightful source of understanding.A very useful guide for parents, relatives (especially we grand parents!!!) of teenagers dealing with communications processes barely comprehensible to those not born with a iPhone in their hand.Excellent reference for marketing execs and government agencies struggling to reach this challenging market segment.
I got bogged down in thinking while reading. This book gave me lots to digest